Chocolate cake for breakfast ..... uummm good! ... It has eggs and milk, and C H O C O L A T E which is very good for you! So why not? ..... Sometimes you have to throw the rule book out about what's for breakfast. I also like pancakes, eggs and sausage for supper sometimes or as some call it dinner ..... Ok enough about food ......
      What I need to explore is the "different kinds" of "LOVE" I ran into a friend of mine at the store, her and her husband just had their second child. She was telling me how the baby has attached to it's daddy and cries if she "holds" it .... she was laughing because their first child did the same thing ...... At first I was "say what??" ..... but as I thought about it, it made perfect sense ..... her husband is a lot older then her with some serious health issues ..... he is limited on what he can do. He can hold is babies, and care for them ..... Each day he is alive is a gift to them. By her allowing the children to bond with their Daddy she is giving them the greatest gift she knows how. I really don't think this is a thought out plan of hers, but and unselfish act of love for her husband. She is a "workhorse" and a farm girl. When she was a little girl, she use to tell her "hubby" (which obviously he wasn't at the time he was in his late 20's and she was 7 or 8)  that she was going to marry him someday, so he'd better wait for her.  He didn't plan on waiting and was amused by her sweet little requests ...... but fate had other plans, when she turned 18 and he wasn't attached she pursued and won his heart. They may be very poor in material things but wealthy beyond imagination in love.
      Our family of 5 ..... it is a tumultuous emotional thing between him and her ..... they both have come into the relationship with many emotional scars and wounds, some self inflicted and some from others. Often it is a "love you with all my heart -and I hate you because I love you so much" affair.
Words that wound, words that heal, words the are playful, words that are careless, run their gambit every month according to the "moon" between them. Their plight is the glue that holds them together.
     What is this love that exists between two human beings that draws them together yet can drive them apart? ....... another young couple I know ..... he refuses to acknowledge their relationship that they have been in for almost a year. She worships the ground he walks on, he can't commit, and she is committed. If she gives up on him he comes running to her, she has children, they love him too, cause he treats their mommy good. Yet he is like a scared rabbit caught in the headlights, and not sure what he wants ..... he's often in a state of frightened to wits end! ...... yet she loves him and he loves her.
    My own relationship ..... my Hubby is my best friend!  ..... yep ... we squabble, and disagree frequently ..... we are as different as day and night. Like two ships one a cruise ship and the other a cargo ship, rarely in the same port. But when the going gets tough we stick together like glue. ...... Well sometimes I have to "duct tape" him to me until he agrees with me ...... LOL  ..... not really .... honesty is the best course of action. It's just learning when to open my mouth with the honesty that is the trick!
    Older couples both need room to move about without feeling claustrophobic in their relationship. A good relationship allows this movement on both parts ...... not "unfaithful" movements but the ability to morph in to creatures that are comfortable with each other and enjoy each other's company but also realize and respect the need for each other's space to be in place.